Dating medical resident student
Dating medical resident student - d3 updating setup file
THE BEST ADVICE The best advice a doctor's wife gave me before we started medical school was: "have NO expectations." This, she told me, would ensure that I would "never be disappointed." At the time it seemed like a dismal attitude to have towards my husband and our relationship, but, honestly, it has probably saved our marriage.More importantly, I think it trained me to consistently assume that my husband is doing his best.
DATE NIGHT Time and communication are essential for a strong, medical marriage. Even during our pre-med years, we went out on a date together every single weekend.
This was sacred time for us together, without distractions, totally focused on each other.
My husband still expects a weekly date; he even admits that HE is the one who "needs" a date night every weekend.
Sometimes we trade babysitting with other couples and just go running together on a Saturday morning.
We never go to movies together - we need time to actually talk, reconnect, and have eye contact (oh so rare with four kids around).
AVOID UNNECESSARY ARGUMENTS A career in medicine is a demanding one.
It constantly seems like there is just not enough "together" time.
Without time together, the level of communication in the marriage relationship suffers.
We try to resolve disagreements immediately, and always with honesty.
It is important to avoid unnecessary arguments and nit-picking with a spouse.
When we are both feeling the stress of medical board exams, finances, or unmet expectations, I have discovered that sometimes, we both just need a "time-out" rather than to "duke it out." A friend told me the other day that her granddaughter seemed upset so she asked if she could help her with something.
Her granddaughter replied, "It's okay, Grandma, I usually feel better after ten or 15 minutes." Remember this when you are upset about something. Usually we actually do feel better after an hour or two, or even a day.