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She was attracted by his profile, which made him seem smart, thoughtful and interesting.
They had many things in common and talked for about 45 minutes.
Then John looked at his watch and said that he had to get going.
He didn’t mention getting together again, and that was the last Sara heard from him. There are many possible reasons that John might have decided not to pursue the relationship further: He may simply have decided he was not attracted to her after all, or that she was not as interesting as she seemed in her profile.
Or he may have difficulty with intimacy or some other issue she could have no way of knowing about. She wanted to know if she had done something to drive him away.
As she went over their conversation in her mind, she realized there was one thing that stood out—though she did not want to believe it.
“He knew what I did for a living, because I listed it on my profile.
But he made a comment about something in my field, and I responded with some information from a research paper I had just published,” she told me.“And it was right after that that he told me that he had to go.” Sara is a scientist with several advanced degrees. But I’m also used to guys outside of work being intimidated by what I do.” When she was younger, she had gotten used to guys rejecting her as a possible girlfriend because they thought she was too serious, too scholarly, or too smart. Years ago, Sara’s mother told her, “If you want to find a husband, don’t be too smart.” Sara had discounted the advice as old fashioned, and anti-feminist.Her previous long-term boyfriend not only did not seem bothered by her intelligence; he seemed to enjoy it.But now that she was dating again, she was worried that her mom might have been onto something. A study published in July, 2015 suggests that she might well have been, much to the consternation of many women—and some men.Lora Park, a social psychologist at the University of Buffalo, and her colleagues Ariana Young and Paul Eastwick studied the reactions of men to women they experienced as smarter than them and found an interesting phenomenon that might very well explain what happened between Sara and John.In three separate studies, the team found that men were attracted to such women .